A few weeks ago, I had coffee with one of my heroes. It’s been said that you shouldn’t meet your heroes, but he did not disappoint.
He is a New York Times best-selling author and a confidant of many of the nations top CEOs. He took an hour out of his busy schedule and before a major speech to share a latte and conversation.
I can’t think of anyone who exemplifies generosity of spirit as well as this man does.
In my presentations, I talk a lot about this idea. As clinical psychologist Edward Dreyfus writes, “People who are generous of spirit are genuinely happy for other’s good fortune irrespective of their own circumstances.”
Two questions I ask audiences are “do you possess a generosity of spirit (GOS) and how do you manifest this quality?”
Easy questions. Challenging answers.
1. GOS isn’t about being perpetually nice or naïve to business realities. In fact, most of the people who possess this trait are savvy business professionals who have a deep awareness of their value and capabilities. But they do share their talents and counsel willingly without a conscious need for reciprocation.
2. GOS people do not have blame as a default. When problems arise, they don’t point fingers, they immediately look for a solution. If you’re working with a blamer, chances are you are looking at a deeply insecure person. It's about finding a solution, not affixing blame.
3. GOS is not about being all-star; it’s about focusing on a mindset of contribution. They ask, “how can I contribute?” Not “how can I shine?”
So, take a moment and think about these two questions: “Do you possess a generosity of spirit (GOS) and how do you manifest this quality?”
The answers may change how you lead and just as valuable, how you feel.